YA and the adoption beatdown

Feeling frustrated after participating in a non-dialogue about adoption on Yahoo! Answers. YA is not a discussion board - you only get one shot at offering your advice, opinion, or expertise on any given topic. After getting tagged with a bunch of thumbs-downs because I did not condemn this, I am frustrated. Not because I don't like being disagreed with - my job would be dullsville if we didn't have lively debates on a daily basis - but because the general attitude on YA toward adoption is very negative, and most posters are very uninformed.

People's reaction to the article, SIAS: YouTube videos are a disgusting tool for prospective adoptive parents ("trolls," they call them) to use. One poster even went so far (or so short?) as to say, "Those people look like losers. There's really a reason they can't have kids." So yes, I know I'm dealing with the uninformed sector of the general public, many who are spouting off on an issue they are not connected to, but at the same time, I can see it in other question posts and answers: a really negative general view of adoption.

And I wonder: Why?

My response to the poster's question (which was, "What do you think of the CNN article?"):

I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as the actual adoption process is not done without a serious, in-person homestudy.

Are the videos advertising "Cash for Your Baby"? No. Are most adoptive parents greedy, "entitled" bastards? Well I guess they must be, or why would they want to open and share their hearts and homes with a child not related to them by blood, a child who needs a loving family?

The potential for problems is present even in a traditional written vitae a couple might submit to an adoption agency. As long as the video isn't the only criteria for selection, what's the problem? Besides using the word "trolling" and adjectives like "disgusting" a lot, NO one has said, exactly, what the problem is.

Dan B. - "There's a reason these people can't have kids" - what a heartless response. You also mention that 'those people look like losers' - what exactly does a loser look like? (Some people would judge those without the ability to use an apostrophe properly as losers, but that's just some.)

Being an adoptee and huge proponent of adoption (S and I have discussed the importance of adoptees paying it forward by becoming adoptive parents themselves) I was really taken aback not only by the negativity of the collective attitude, but mostly by the ignorance of their comments. The heart (or lack thereof) of their attitude is: You made it, so either keep it or kill it.

I hope it's a small minority that I happen to have stumbled upon today.